Jun 18, 2017

Interests: Life's Work, Opening The Next Door, Parenting, Women's Wisdom (Seeking or Giving Advice)

Author: Larissa at HERdacity

Wisdom From Our Fathers

For some of us, wisdom passed down from our fathers helped shape who we are.

On Father’s Day, we wanted to share lessons from empowered women—who say their father’s words inspired some of their success. 

Katherine Switzer’s father on getting in the game

In 1967, Katherine Switzer became the first woman to run the Boston Marathon as a numbered entry. "Cheerleaders cheer for other people," he said. "You want people to cheer for you…"

"The game is on the field. Life is to participate, not to spectate."

Vivian Stringer’s father on doing what’s right

Vivian Stringer is the head coach of the Rutgers University basketball team and has one of the best records in women’s basketball history.

In her memoir, she writes about lessons her father told her including when she didn’t make the school cheerleader team. Despite being qualified—only Caucasian girls made the cut. Because Stringer is African American, the NAACP wanted her to appeal the decision publically. She didn’t want to, but her father pushed her to do what was ‘right’. He told her:

“There comes a time you must stand, because if you don’t stand for something you’ll fall for anything.”

Sara Blakely’s father on failure

Sara Blakely is the business mogul and founder of SPANX. She is often quoted saying parents need to celebrate failures to help encourage children to be brave.

“My father would ask, what did you fail at this week? Failure is not an outcome, but relates to the lack of trying.”

She even said ‘spectacular failures’ would earn you a high five from her dad.


QUESTIONS: What advice did your father give you? What lessons does your husband or partner give your daughter?  



Don't take the blue speed. (No, not joking)

"Don't raise your voice, improve your argument" 

I think the most important thing my father did was always set implied standards. It was not 'if' I went to college it was 'where?'. It was not 'if' I got the promotion it was 'when.' By assuming that I was capable of the best I always assumed I was capable of it and strived towards those goals. 

In our family, our father was the one who was gentle, kind, and supportive.  Whenever I showed interest in something, he search and found a book about it for me.  Sometimes I was already way past the level of the book, but his love and caring in doing it was wonderful.  He told people, in our presence, that he had four children who were all very different, but we were all really good people.

It was another older male mentor who taught me to, in his words, "By. God. Persevere."

Sounds like a wonderful inspiration for your entire family. Thank you for sharing.

My father taught all of his daughters to find and use their voice. He taught all of them to be leaders. My oldest sisiter, a titan of leadership, often shares this advice he gave her when she was practicing to be the first female ROTC commander in high school, "call a command from your gut - it's where your heart and your head meet."

Wow! So powerful. THANK YOU for sharing. 

What a great description of your gut--so true, so true. 

fantastic words for us all

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